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50. Equanimity: Seeing our Storylines and Changing Course (part 3)

In this episode, we're in the third part of our five-part series on equanimity. In last episode, we faced the beginning of an emotional storm. Now, the storm is whipping up more, enough to incite that common hurricane called “why me”… also known as getting caught up in our story line. The problem here is that the stories we tell ourselves are rarely helpful or accurate. Or as therapist Lori Gottlieb puts it succinctly: "If there's anything I've learned as a therapist, it's that we are all unreliable narrators of our own lives." Thankfully, equanimity can still be our life boat at this phase of a storm. We'll talk about the strategies to use to quiet those stories and reclaim equanimity.


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Key Takeaways:

  • We often assume that our circumstances craft the stories we tell ourselves... but what is more often true is that the way we narrate our daily lives is what actually writes and cements our stories.
  • The stories we tell ourselves are really powerful and can actually serve as obstacles for us. They are not permanent though, we just keep rehearsing them. We can write a different story.
  • Mindfulness is tough when we're in the middle of an emotional storm and our story has already kicked in. We need to work with our mind, to practice awareness strategies and mindfulness before we launch into a story so that we can unleash its grip. 
  • We need to take ownership of these stories with our wise mind, otherwise our unconscious, fearful thoughts will drive the story. 


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