The Benefits of Family Meals & Five Tips to Make Them Happen

The Benefits of Family Meals & Five Tips to Make Them Happen

Aug 28, 2018

By Erin Erickson, DNP, MPH, MA

Erin is a nurse practitioner dual certified in family practice and women’s health and currently sees patients at Minnesota Personalized Medicine. She is also Co-Owner and Co-Founder of Mom Enough®️, an evidence-based parenting blog. 

Dear busy families with kids:

  1. Do you ever wonder if it’s really worth the effort to have a regular family meal?
  2. After your hard work in the kitchen, are your children done eating within 5 minutes of the food hitting the table and begging to leave?

If you can relate, know that you're not alone. Also know that in spite of what might feel like a futile effort, the time spent on meals is well worth it.

Before I dive into the strategies of making family meals happen, I’d like to invite you to join my family for dinner. The five of us sit on little stools, squished around a too-small table in a too-small kitchen not made for “eating in.”

My oldest son stands over his food, adding ketchup. To. Every. Thing. When he eventually sits, he sits at least one foot away from the table, leaving plenty of room for food to fall from his fork to his lap.

My youngest has a habit of stripping down to his skivvies the second he gets home from school. He puts on a fuzzy blanket for mealtime and entertains our table with jokes that are just shy of appropriate.

My middle child provides the commentary on everyone else’s behavior. She’ll exclaim, “Gross! You’re putting ketchup on salmon?” and “That was not an appropriate joke.”

My husband sits quietly, taking it all in.

I breathe deeply between bites and waffle from stifling a laugh at the inappropriate jokes to biting my tongue when the oldest spills again.

This may all sound like a disaster. Can you relate?! Nonetheless, I find family meal time precious. It’s usually entertaining, it’s one of the few times we’re all together, and the wellbeing benefits are absolutely worth the occasional frustrations.

In fact, frequent family meals are particularly good for kids. Research has found that more frequent family meals are associated with the following benefits for kids:

  • Improved nutrition (e.g., eating more fruits, vegetables, dairy, and micronutrients).
  • Lower consumption of sweets and sugar-sweetened beverages.
  • Lower risk of being overweight or obese.
  • Decreased risk of disordered eating behaviors.
  • Improved psychosocial outcomes such as decreased alcohol, tobacco, and substance use; depression; and suicidal thoughts.
  • Higher GPAs.

You may want to add to the list that mealtimes are associated with parent frustration. I totally get it. But, don’t give them up! Below you’ll find five tried and true tips to get the benefits, reduce the frustration, and make the most of your family meals.

1. Plan Ahead to Ease Stress

Planning ahead can help ease stress around mealtimes. Engaging your kids in the process can also take some of the responsibility off your shoulders while simultaneously teaching them useful skills. Here are some tips:

  • Plan weekday meals on the weekend. As you plan, find ways to use leftovers in the next few meals. A roasted chicken on Monday makes for tasty sandwiches on Tuesday and a chicken stock on Wednesday.
  • Cook in bulk. Cook extra family-sized portions and tuck them in the freezer for busy nights. You’ll feel relief when you can throw a frozen, homemade soup in a pot and save meal prep time amidst a weekend packed with activities.
  • Plan together. Ask your kids to identify recipes they would like to try. Gamify this process by setting a maximum number of ingredients or requiring a specific ingredient to be used in the recipe. They’ll have fun with the challenge and will likely be more excited to try the new dish.

2. Grow, Cook, and Eat Together

Kids who participate in the cooking process are more likely to eat the meal. Growing food together can make the food even more enticing and helps kids understand how to create healthy, whole-food meals. Don’t worry if you’re garden-less. Try growing windowsill herbs or place a small, potted tomato plant in a sunny place outside. When the food gets to the table, your kids can take pride in knowing they were involved every step of the way.

3. Try, Try, and Try Again

It can take about 10 attempts to develop a taste for something. Encourage your children to try new things, over, and over again (at least 10 times!).

4. Show, Then Tell

Family meals are a great time to model healthy eating behavior. Research shows that children who observe parents eating healthy meals are more likely to eat healthfully themselves. So, grab a fork and show them how it’s done.

5. Disconnect To Connect

Several common pitfalls can get in the way of connections at mealtimes. The most common are phones and devices at the table and watching TV while eating. Get the most out of family meal time with these practices:

  • Keep a device basket on the counter. Before a meal, everyone silences their devices and places them in the basket.
  • Sub a playlist for the TV. Research shows that eating while watching television is associated with less healthful meals. Offer more healthy sounds by creating a mealtime playlist and play at a low enough volume so that you can still talk together. Make this a family activity by letting each person pick a song for the playlist.
  • Ask questions. Keep a question jar on the counter and encourage everyone to add meaningful questions to it whenever they like. Pluck a few out during a meal and let the questions inspire your mealtime conversations.

So, no matter if you’re squeezed around a make-shift table or scrambling to find time to both prepare food and eat it, remember the benefits that come from a meal together. Relish the quirks (ketchup, anyone?) and let family meals be a precious and healthy family activity during your busy week.


Dr. Emmons spent some time with MomEnough to discuss strategies parents can use to bring more calm and joy into family life.>>>


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