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The Window of Tolerance

anxiety depression Dec 04, 2018
  By Tim Culbert, MD

 

The Window of Tolerance

The "Window of Tolerance" is the optimal zone of arousal where a person is able to thrive in everyday life. This zone has been described by Drs. Dan Siegel and Pat Ogden as “sailing within a river of wellbeing where we are able to respond to all that comes our way with equanimity-without being thrown off course".

 

When you find yourself outside of this desirable zone (e.g., a nerve-wracking social situation), then your nervous system gets revved up and you can become emotionally over-reactive and quick to anger. Or, you may go the other way, and shut down or withdraw.

As the saying goes, "You can't direct the wind, but you can adjust the sails." So how can you adjust your sails when you find yourself outside your window of tolerance? You can use awareness, grounding, and mindful breathing skills to help you get back in the zone for more optimal functioning.  

The regular practice of meditation and also practicing self-care skills in the “heat of the moment” can help you to remain tolerant and more effective in emotionally charged situations. Even amidst the stress, you sail a little smoother. Try this meditation on compassion and tolerance a few times this week and see if it helps you to find more acceptance and compassion.

 


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